Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist

Kink doesn’t need to be all or nothing, so start the conversation and take the risk

It may be “just sex” to him. But for you, it’s clearly becoming more than that. It’s time to prioritize your needs and do a cost/benefit analysis of the situation

The three golden rules for anal sex? Cleanliness, relaxation, and lubrication.

Asexuality isn’t the same as sexual aversion, and that’s a topic worth exploring, as well as acceptance for how you feel

Humiliation in daily life? Not fun. But in a controlled, consensual setting? It can be intensely arousing.

Even if waiting this long to engage in intimacy wasn’t on your vision board for life, you can begin shaping a more positive narrative around it and not worrying about being “good” or “bad”

It’s a nuanced conversation and you want to be clear on your reasoning behind wanting to explore group sex with him

The answer might be found in communication and refocusing on quality over quantity

The key to talking about desires, boundaries and concerns is approaching the conversation with curiosity, not criticism