Sex Advice Archives

Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Is Polyamory Right for You?

Monogamy isn’t the only way, but before jumping in, you need to ask yourself why you’re interested, what your plan is, and what your relationship with jealousy is

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST July 28, 2025September 5, 2025

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Healing Shame Through Sex-Positive Living

Four steps can help reshape your relationship with sexuality. And it’s not a sprint, but a marathon that will take dedication to relearn the beauty of your sexual self

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST July 21, 2025September 2, 2025

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: How Can I Rebuild Desire and Emotional Safety After a Pregnancy Loss?

Trying non-demand touch activities, recognizing that you have permission to move at your own pace, and realizing sex can become a healing space are all part of the journey

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST July 14, 2025July 25, 2025

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Why Am I Like This? Planting the Seeds of Sexuality

Explaining the “Garden Metaphor,” one of the best ways to talk about how sexuality changes over time

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST July 7, 2025August 14, 2025

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: True Cuckolding vs. Sexual Coercion

This whole thing only works if both of you feel seen and communicate. Don’t skip the conversation part, even if it might be uncomfortable.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST July 1, 2025September 8, 2025

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: I Am in My 70s and Never Had An Orgasm

Let’s talk about the “orgasm gap,” prioritizing your body, and remembering that an orgasm is only 5% of a sexual experience.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST June 23, 2025July 22, 2025

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Finding the Right Positions as We Age

Tips on a couple of go-to positions and a reminder that not all “sex” is penetrative

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST June 16, 2025September 5, 2025

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: My Friend’s Obsessive Thoughts Over My Past MMF Threesome

It’s time to talk about jealousy and shaming

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST June 9, 2025September 5, 2025

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Sexual vs Romantic Compatibility: Which One is More Important?

You’re allowed to want more with someone. You’re also allowed to enjoy amazing sex. Just don’t confuse the spark with something sustainable that can lead to long-term success

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST June 2, 2025September 5, 2025

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Our Son Caught Us Having Sex

Kids are exposed to sex in subtle and not-so-subtle ways all the time. What makes the difference is whether they feel safe, supported, and informed at home.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST May 27, 2025September 5, 2025

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: I’m 47 and In a Two-Year Relationship. Is It Too Late to Explore Kink?

Kink doesn’t need to be all or nothing, so start the conversation and take the risk

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST May 19, 2025September 5, 2025

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: I Am Gay and Hooking Up With My Straight Friend.

It may be “just sex” to him. But for you, it’s clearly becoming more than that. It’s time to prioritize your needs and do a cost/benefit analysis of the situation

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST May 12, 2025September 5, 2025