We are told that happy couples have frequent sex and that declining sex means something must be wrong. But having sex you do not want is not necessarily evidence of a healthy relationship and nobody should have to provide access to their body to prove that they love their partner.
Watching porn doesn’t make someone gay, straight, bi or anything else. And fantasy isn’t reality. But exploring what you’re curious about can give you permission to grow.
Start by asking what’s on and off the table and remember that three people trying to navigate sex for the first time together are probably not going to move together perfectly.