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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: I Want Rough Sex But I’m Afraid to Ask for It

Fear shows up because people worry about crossing a line or pushing their partner into something they are not comfortable with. That fear is actually a good sign.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST April 15, 2026April 15, 2026

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Why Do Some Straight Men Fantasize About Being With Other Men?

Fantasy exists in a different space than identity, and thinking about sexual fluidity can help understand those feelings or ideas.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST April 6, 2026April 6, 2026

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Maybe Don’t Put That Cucumber in Your Butt

When it comes to food play, one of the biggest misconceptions is the idea that if something is safe to eat, it must be safe to use anywhere on the body.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST March 30, 2026March 30, 2026

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: The Benefits of Cannabis on Sex

Some describe feeling less self conscious, others report heightened sensory awareness. For couples, this can sometimes slow the experience down in a positive way, encouraging more focus on pleasure rather than performance.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST March 24, 2026March 24, 2026

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Sometimes I Fake My Orgasm to Speed Sex Up. Should I Tell My Boyfriend?

Orgasms aren’t the end all be all of sex, and what you require is likely very different than what works for him. Being open and vulnerable is a good place to start the conversation.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST March 16, 2026March 16, 2026

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: What Porn Gets Wrong About Sex

If your sex life does not resemble porn, that is not a failure. It is often a sign that your intimacy is real.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST March 9, 2026March 9, 2026

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: The One Activity All Couples Need to Do

Making a yes, no and maybe list for sexual activities with your partner is a great exercise to open communication and create intimacy.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST March 2, 2026March 2, 2026

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Your “How To” Guide on Squirting

Dispelling some myths and handing out some advice to go with the towels.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST February 16, 2026February 16, 2026

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Valentine’s Day Sex is Overrated

The holiday amplifies everything that already makes intimacy hard: pressure, comparison, obligation, stress, and performance.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST February 9, 2026February 9, 2026

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Why Do I Feel Turned On By My Partner Cheating?

Whether redefining the relationship you are in, stepping away from patterns that keep leaving you feeling small, or getting support to untangle what you actually want versus what you have been settling for, figuring out what’s going on is work that matters.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST January 26, 2026January 26, 2026

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: Why Women Love Gay Male Romance

In stories like Heated Rivalry, women get to see masculinity expressed in flexible ways. Instead of dominance or avoidance, we see men choosing each other, expressing need, and prioritizing connection.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST January 19, 2026January 19, 2026

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Ask a Cleveland Sex Therapist: When Sex Starts to Feel Annoying

Many people go through seasons where sex simply is not a priority, or where their relationship to desire shifts. Sometimes that pause is exactly what allows people to reconnect with themselves in a more honest and grounded way later on.

by Matt Lachman LPCC-S, CST January 12, 2026January 2, 2026